Feeling Our Feelings To Create Change

Feeling Our Feelings To Create Change

EMOTIONAL GUIDANCE

 

Have you noticed how much time you spend trying to control the way you feel? When negative emotions arise you might seek validation for feeling as you do by blaming another person or an outside condition.  Perhaps you see your feelings as an indication that you are a failure and condemn yourself. Or, something may have happened in your experience that you have no control over and it seems like there is nothing you can do to feel better.  In each of these scenarios in the effort to control your feelings you are practicing resisting feeling your feelings. As a result, pretty soon this feeling of struggle turns into a repetitive pattern and you find yourself in a disheartening emotional state more often throughout your day.  You may not have control over other people, outside conditions, or world politics, but you do have the ability to stop beating up on yourself for having uncomfortable emotions, and the reason you might want to do so is that they have the potential to show you what you want to live more satisfied and fulfilled. If you do not try so hard to get rid of what you deem as unwanted emotions, and instead go with the flow and make peace with where you are, you will allow a shift in the underlying energy that the emotions represent.  The emotion you feel in any moment of time is vital to the evolution of your path to joy – it is a temporary indication of what you have going on in the present. It is not an indictment of who you are; it doesn’t mean you are in the wrong place. Emotions are a manifestation of what you’ve got going on. Think of it as a gas gauge that indicates you are out of gas so you can go do something about it.

 

Make Peace Emotions

 

Emotions that we deem as “bad” are showing us where we are holding resistance to making the changes we want in our experience.  Like peeling the layers of the onion, our so-called negative emotions or feelings of struggle show us where we are introducing tension into the equation and what needs to be released to come into balance with a state of well-being.  When negative emotions are triggered by conditions or circumstances, transitions or life-events, we can be sure that our core beliefs influenced that emotional reaction based on a limiting perspective of ourselves. We work against ourselves when we try to push those feelings away because we are not allowing the emotion to show us the core belief in the way of moving into a more satisfying feeling.  Of course, we want to feel better, but the path to feeling better becomes further and further away as we get ourselves into a stuck place due to more and more resistance. Denying, hiding, suppressing or trying to do things in an effort to get rid of feelings does not make them go away, and does not change the feeling.

As we make peace with our feelings and surrender pushing against them in our tendency not to feel them when they arise, we loosen the “charge” or intensity of the emotion.  In this process of allowing ourselves to accept what we are feeling we find self- compassion. We free up the emotional hold of the negative emotions when we let go of whatever judgement we have made about having the unsatisfactory feelings.  In the process of releasing resistance to feeling our feelings we alleviate the futile cycle of attempting to defeat the negative emotional grip, all the while keeping it active in our psyche with our attention to the uncomfortable feelings. What follows from feeling our feelings and not trying to change them or make them go away is a natural opening up of our awareness to what is underlying these negative emotions – beliefs that can be shifted to more loving, supportive and positive thoughts; and as they are the emotions release. In the thoughts that come to us next, the emotions are soothed and begin to subside.

 

The Path Forward

 

Changing how you feel within is the sure path to the freedom, happiness and joy you truly desire. To allow that change to happen release all the reasons why you think feeling your fear, sadness, hurt or abandonment is beyond your ability.  Appreciate the truth that you are a human being who feels and acknowledge the spectrum of your feelings – whatever you are feeling in the moment. Even the thoughts and feelings that make you think you must be doing something wrong or else you would not be living it.  Out of acknowledgement of your feelings – without self-judgement or self-criticism – a resolution comes through. Because out of that experience of feeling contrast is born the clarity of desire. A problem actually has the potential of producing an answer that puts you in a better place, closer to your desire for joy.

In order to stay in harmony with who you really are, you must go with the flow of your desire for creating your happiness. Harmony is really a matter of giving up practiced resistance to feelings. Feeling your feelings, acknowledging their importance to your path forward, strengthens the relationship between who you really are on the inside and what you want to flow into your experience.  You do not need to run away from unpleasing feelings in order to invite well-being into your life. Relax and stop railing against or condemning your problem. Instead of getting up tomorrow morning and reactivating self-blame, appreciate the resolution that is coming into being as you adjust to a more peaceful, loving acceptance of your emotions.

If you are afraid of feeling your feelings or worried that you will never not feel bad if you acknowledge emotional discomfort, contact me to discuss how my emotional coaching program, The Surrender Solution, might help you release resistance and get back into the flow of emotional well being.

Conscious Courage

Conscious Courage

WHAT ARE YOU FOCUSED ON?

 

Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you know in your heart that you must make a change but you find the process so uncomfortable that you are paralyzed with fear?  Perhaps you are sure about leaving a job, changing a living situation, letting go of a relationship or even a marriage, but you just cannot find the courage to make the move. You notice yourself thinking that it may be easier to just stay put than to take a leap into that uncomfortable zone and inner conflict is eating away at your happiness.  Typically, the negative voice of doubt, “What if this backfires?” ”I’ve never been good at change.” “Is this the right thing to do?” starts to play in your head, hijack your emotions and you feel stuck. It might even seem that you have lost connection with the clarity and sense of purpose you once felt about your choice. You realize the reason for your original decision has become obscured by a hindering momentum that immobilizes you.

So now where are you and what can you do? The short answer is that you are so focused on possible downsides of making a change that you are dis-couraged by the fear. You have aligned your thinking with limitations and shut yourself off from possibilities that you deserve the joy you are seeking.  In other words, you do not believe that within you is the wisdom, guidance and potential for more joy inspiring you and moving you on a path of well-being.  Disconnect from that invisible part of yourself, where the Divine whispers and sparks your creativity allows uncertainty to creep in. What do you believe about yourself?  Do you appreciate and see yourself as the unique, majestic being you are? Can you awaken to the possibility that you are meant to live a life of well-being, in control of your choices and creating the results you want?

 

COURAGE AND PERSPECTIVE

 

Knowing and appreciating who you are – the unique, inspired, creative essence of you, ignites self-confidence and taps into your potential for consciously creating whatever you want, free of fear and doubt. When you embrace who you are at your core, as well as everything that has led you to this point in your life, flaws and all, you access the self-truth that awakens courage and empowers you to claim your right to happiness.  Rather than wandering lost in the emotions of fear and dependency on ideas that keep you focused in the past, you sense the energy of surety and the desire for something new coming together to create a clear path forward.

Finding courage isn’t about faking it, or pushing yourself into uncomfortable situations.  Courage is having the intention to set aside a perspective that sees your choices and circumstances as holding the power to make you a victim. A perspective based upon defeatist beliefs that did not originate in you.  Courage is recognizing fear and consciously letting go of it for the sake of becoming more fulfilled, more happy and true to yourself. It is accepting the fact that while you may have discomfort, you are willing to allow yourself to receive something greater than what might be holding you back.

Courage has the power to change your life because courage offers you the opportunity to check in with what really matters, you! Once you are aligned with that in an honest, intentional way, courage is a symbol of your integrity and paves the way for you to walk your talk.

 

YOU MATTER

 

How do you know when you are aligned with your courage to forge a new direction? You feel good. There is an emotional sensation of freedom, of love and of connection with the good feeling energy of your desire.  If you are like most people, you have practiced being critical of yourself. The reason we do that is because others, even those who are well meaning in their intentions, have held what we do or say as needing to be different so they can feel better. We learn to think that we are not standing in a good place with our desires or the reasons we want something to change.  Conscious courage is really the determination to feel the goodness, worthiness and truth that you are and let that carry you through resistance, fear or anxiety to the next step on your path. You do not have to know all of the details and how things will come about. You only have to make up your heart and mind that you matter, your ideas matter and your dreams matter.

Here’s a way to be consciously courageous in any situation:

  • Start with accepting that you may have negative feelings about your ability to move forward. Your emotions are clearly evidence of what you have been feeling about yourself up until now. But recognize that while you may be down on yourself and feeling fear, those are learned ideas that came from the opinions and beliefs of others.  Maybe you adopted them from your family or bought into the judgments of peers. It does not matter where they came from. You have the power to shift into love, forgiveness and courage, now, in the present moment, because you are more than the sum total of past inaccurate conclusions.
  • Ask yourself, how has fear been playing out in my life?  What have I been thinking about myself (or saying to myself) that is dis-couraging? (e.g. “I don’t have the success I think I should have.” “I can never make a good decision.” Etc.)  Understand that this negative emotion is both the blocking and denial of your potential; and you have a choice to continue feeling that way. It may have been a subconscious choice up until today, but now you are ready to see it as an opportunity to consciously choose differently.
  • Take a piece of paper and pen, or a journal and start to describe to yourself what courage feels like.  Does it feel like worthiness? How would courage play out in your life? Think of a scenario in your life (start with something easy) where you can demonstrate courage; i.e. realize what you want and allow yourself to be bound by nothing in achieving it.  What does that courage feel like? Connect with the inner energy of courage in your body and see it flowing into the situation you are thinking about. Visualize yourself stepping into the scenario now and feel the courage swirling around you. Revel in it a little longer.
  • When you have an idea that feels really good, practice conscious courage by acknowledging that your ideas are important, and deserve to be seen and noticed.  Catch a glimpse of how wonderful and good it is that you give birth to new ideas. Pay attention to any inspiration that arises to take the next step toward realizing your idea and confidently follow through. The courage is there and will naturally move you forward when you can start caring a lot more about how you are riding the current with who you are meant to be.

 

My name is Marilyn and I teach people how to turn fear to freedom.  My personal struggle with fear inspired me to help people learn to live as they are meant to be; enjoying powerful, fulfilling lives which they create and control. You can find out more about my story and how we can work on solutions to anxiety, panic, loss, hopelessness and fear together, on my personal page: www.marilyndecalo.com

Fall Back in Love With Your Life After Loss

Fall Back in Love With Your Life After Loss

When loss happens and the life you once knew –  at one time loved –  comes to an end, it is important to know how to connect with your inner strength and wisdom. Navigating the ensuing journey of heart-ache and pain from losing a job, a loved one or a relationship can leave you feeling disempowered, unsupported and uncertain of yourself at times. Emotions may be overwhelming, but through my own experience of loss and heart-ache, I found that the surest way out of turmoil was to reconnect with the truth, love and support of my inner-self, listen to the wisdom behind the pain and honor the path I was walking, hand in hand with my spiritual nature.

 

Emotional Mastery is Key to Moving On

 

To regain my center and self-confidence I had to be being willing to be with my emotions, be honest about how feel; accept the negative and positives of the situation, learn to manage your stress and shift your thinking from what makes you angry and fearful to self-compassion.  My spiritual truth became my litmus test when my thoughts started spinning and I felt out of control. I learned to say, “How is this feeling serving me – all of me, right now?” You might also find that having a support network of those who understand what you are going through, and who are willing to listen without judgment as you experience the ups and downs is helpful as you work through emotions. A friend, family member, support group or therapist can make the difference in a day when you are vacillating between hope and hopelessness.

Especially in the early stages the constant flux of difficult emotions makes it challenging to focus on anything, let alone finding the courage to take next step forward. With life turned upside down, you may not be able to make positive, constructive choices.  All too often people make important decisions about finances, possessions or children in states of confusion and emotional imbalance.  This is where being in tune with the truth of your essential self, inviting answers that speak your truth will inspire perspective, insight and guidance that you confidently act upon. Most importantly you will know how to right your keel when you get out of balance.

 

Practice Compassion

 

In my work as a therapist, I find that many people who are looking to heal from loss are focused on ‘fighting back’ as opposed to clearly thinking about their own future.  They are unclear about their priorities or how to start over; afraid of financial repercussions or how they will find meaning again. It can all be exhausting and stagnating. You can let go of the battle. Learning to acknowledge worry, and let it go; getting off of the merry-go-round of fear about making a mistake (it is normal to make mistakes); these are some of the ways to strike a healthier balance and open yourself to compassion rather than closing off in anger.

Be willing to fall back in love with yourself and your life. Be someone you like and care about. Allow time each day to connect within, intentionally open to the potential for new creative expression that feeds your soul on deep level.  Rather than seeking approval or validation from others, find compassion for yourself and everything in your life that led to this point in time.  Embrace the ups and downs and let go of self- judgment. To turn things around find things you are passionate about, dream about the future and trust in your own goodness.  Love your soul, love that you are alive, and love the beauty to be found in each new day.  Slowly, surely you will fall back in love with your life.

What can you say “Yes” to in your life that evokes the feeling of love? A favorite park, a beach or a place in the world?  Movies, books, or museums? Love may have disappeared in your relationship or from your career, but love remains eternal as the foundational energy the universe.

 

Here are 3 powerful ways to fall in love with your life:

  • Take some time each day to focus your thoughts and energy on things that you enjoy.  Tune into your heart and ask, what do I love that feels freeing and energizing?  Make a list of those things and listen to what they are telling you about reorganizing your life or reinventing yourself.  Thinking about your life can be very freeing!
  • Make a decision to be happy and make being happy a priority.  Yes, there are up days and down days in life, but the gap between them can become much narrower when you know what makes you happy and decide to dwell there more often.  Don’t let pain, overwhelm or sadness consume you and become who you are.  Healthy balance is the key to feeling good.
  • Be the person who is responsible for how you feel.  Stop blaming others for your hurt, and connect with your inner power to become who you are meant to be – a fuflfilled, satisfied, joyful being having a worthwhile, unique life adventure.  No one can make you worry or feel fear.  When they arise let them flow through you and leave.  It is possible to take responsibility for everything you think, say and do.  Then when you make a decision about doing something you are prioritizing yourself, and not relying on others to make you feel good.

 

 

Self- Paced Course “Becoming Who You Are Meant To Be” is open for enrollment. In this course you will be taking a deep dive within in order to understand who you are meant to be. You will make shifts in your awareness and thinking to get the results you want, and live your life passionately, joyfully, and with meaning.

Using Spiritual Awareness To Know Yourself

Using Spiritual Awareness To Know Yourself

SPIRITUAL AWARENESS

Complete connection with who I am is what I want because when I know myself as the loving, compassionate, masterful, and divine being at my core, my moments of life are profoundly enjoyable.  I admit that I slip in and out of that delicious state of consciousness, prone to the influence of others, tossed around a bit by distractions, resistant thoughts, beliefs and emotions.  But my intention these days is to stay in that higher, clear, joyful state more and more often, to feel the uplifting alignment with positive vibrations.  The most natural way that I have learned to show up in those situations that challenge me to remember the truth of who I really am, is spiritually aware.  When I am spiritually aware I invite my higher self into my life so I can fully inhabit and live my experiences as the authentic person I am capable of being. The big difference of a spiritually aware approach to knowing oneself, is the emotional willingness, conscious openness and deliberate focus on the unlimited potential for good that comes from connection with the divine self.

 

THE PATH TO YOUR FULL POTENTIAL

Each individual is unique and we all want to reach our potential – all the things that life has caused us to want.  I ask myself more frequently these days, am I allowing the experiences of my life to be the catalyst for connecting with my inner being?   Sometimes I get under the influence of what I see as current events or others’ state of being.  But I realize that the key to satisfaction is spiritual awareness that I am moving in the direction of my potential, rather than focusing on the physical outcome itself.  The connection to Source and being in an attitude of satisfaction with the emotional feeling of being a part of everything that is becoming, of the energy that is always flowing around me, is a new perspective. It’s a quantum field perspective that acknowledges our ability to utilize the energy of what we perceive as true and real to create our experiences.   As I relax into it I notice that I see everything and everyone in the process of creating experiences, including myself, based upon who we think we are.  This is perhaps the most important reason to know yourself – so you can live your life as you truly are meant to.

I must step back and state that I believe I am a magnificent being, an energetic creation and creator. Yes, I am physical and my blood, bones and flesh are me, too.  When I attempt to interpret who I am from my spiritual awareness – a fuller awareness of my potential for choice, freedom, love, joy and vibrant health and abundance, I get a true reading of who I am.  I am an extension of the energy of All-That-Is.   I came to this understanding through my own pain and suffering when I finally surrendered the struggle and asked for guidance.

 

WHAT IS SPIRITUAL GUIDANCE?

Spiritual guidance has come out of the exclusive domain of the religious institutions challenging the rules of what being good or bad means and fostering reliance upon the individual human’s connection to their inner wisdom and flow of goodness. Those societal and religious standards that silence your inner voice and connection to your own divine essence may be well intended but they can cut you off from knowing your true self.  Do you live your life by rules or by the integrity of your own heart and mind? Are the opinions of others influencing how you perceive yourself and live your life? Knowing who you are and acting from respect and love for yourself first is not only being authentic but it allows you to respect others for who they are. Establishing and maintaining a harmonious connection between you and your spiritual essence is not only how we remain true to ourselves it is how we move forward with enhanced joy and able to serve better.

Open yourself up to discover your inner divinity and tune into the invisible intelligence that flows life through your physical self.   You can feel the connection to the Infinite in your breath, the animating force of spirit.  Discover your true self and come to rely upon it at all times.

Dr. Wayne Dyer put it this way: “If we are true to the divine wisdom within, we’ll be ready to follow our path and make our unique contribution to the world.”

 

HOW DO WE KNOW OURSELVES?

 

There are many ways we can know ourselves.  One way is through what seems like the practical, everyday sense – the way we interpret our experiences, evaluating our likes and dislikes, our strengths and weaknesses.  But the question then arises, does the life you are living reflect who you really are?  And, are you reacting to circumstances and outward events or circumstances that are dictated by the ideas or beliefs of others or are you appreciating your outside world because it affirms the truth of what you believe about yourself, the expression of who you are within?

  • Each one of us is a unique, authentic creative expression and creator of the experiences of our lives.  When we know our own heart, the inner, expanded self where our essential nature speaks, we find the truth of who we are by connecting with the presence of love, joy, wholeness and peace.  In our openness to flow of the energy from our inner being and connection to our own wisdom we are empowered to know and appreciate ourselves as divine.
  • Cultivate your natural joy for being alive by recognizing the living light in you that is your true essence. When you accept this, you allow the experience of who you really are to unfold more and more in your conscious awareness.
  • Practice this connection to your true self in meditation to build trust in the process of allowing it more and more and no longer feeling you are living others ideas of who you are.

Remain confident that through continued reliance on your spiritual awareness you are aligning with your highest self and on your way to manifesting your unique dreams and destiny. What do you choose?  Who you are based upon the whims, decisions and ideals of others, or living through the joy of knowing yourself as the magnificent divine being you are meant to be?

 

Contact Marilyn@marilyndecalo.com for a free breakthrough session and start to live stronger, emotionally balanced and in tune with your authentic self.

Generating Happiness Within: Conscious Joy

Generating Happiness Within: Conscious Joy

HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE

 

Are you aware of the energy stream of joy that is constantly available and flowing through your life?  Conscious awareness of the joy that courses through your day and activities is the absolute best way to bring more of it into your life and start living your life as you are meant to, happy.  Let’s take cooking as an example.  There are really great gifts in treating yourself right by creating a good meal, but if you are thinking of cooking as drudgery or boring your focus obviously isn’t on the idea of treating yourself right; or if it is, you are negating the potential for happiness with your resistant feelings about cooking. Consider that you may have a habit of thinking that you can change.  The question to ask yourself is, “How can I shift my energy and focus to open up to positivity around cooking?” You may have to practice shifting from what you are feeling to exploring the idea of “Where is the joy in cooking for me?”.  Choose the energy you want to be in because you do have the power of choice about what you think and see in life.  In our cooking example you can start the process by telling yourself how much you appreciate caring for your body, mind and spirit and feeling that goodness inside of you. You can immediately recognize your connection with joy when you hit upon an idea of what feels good about enjoying a healthy meal. Think about how healthy it is to source fresh ingredients and how enjoyable it is to have good food and to honor what fuels you from the earth.  You are creating a new more expansive perspective of yourself as you choose to happy in the moment, and when you do something from a feeling of love; rather than it is a chore.

 

HAPPINESS COMES FROM WITHIN

 

While often we look for things or people to bring us happiness, the truth is that happiness comes from within every time.  Even when we receive the delight or surprise of happiness from an unexpected circumstance or relationship, we have already internally created a sense of appreciation for the experience by delighting in our perception of it as a possibility before it occurred. In other words, our sphere of influence includes enjoyment of happy experiences that we may not expect, but we may be receptive to receive.  The way this happens is using our emotions to guide us to what makes us feel happy (desires), and finding fulfillment in basking in the idea of those things before they come into manifestations.

Within you is the ability to let go of struggle by using your thoughts and emotions to come into balance with your essential (joyful) self.  You have done this many times in the past unconsciously.  To consciously know the truth that this is your creative (super)power – to intentionally bring more joy into your experiences and activities – allows fulfillment to grow stronger and more common in all areas of your life. In other words, the outer experience is a reflection of your inner state of well-being. As you free yourself from the grip of needless, unconscious, limited thinking around having to struggle in order to gain anything you have cleared the pathway for ease, grace, joy and happiness to shine through your days. It starts with choosing to feel happy within, first, and allowing yourself to appreciate those good feeling experiences around you every day.

 

HOW DO YOU BRING FORTH HAPPINESS?

 

How do you bring forth happiness within?  It’s about intention, quieting the mind, breathing into your consciousness and allowing yourself to connect to your joy.  You can activate the energy of joy and love in your heart by seeing what’s good in your life and focusing on the happy feelings of imagining more of the same.  Say to yourself, “I have an abundance of happiness in my life.  I see my happiness in … my home, my work, my friends, my family, my team, my community, etc.” Let your heart open to feel the connection to joy as you imagine those situations, events and people.  This is your path, your life and your happiness. Clear it to appreciate all the good and happiness that you are meant to have in your life every day.

This is the new consciousness that is awakening the world.  Be open to the possibilities that in everything, including the seeming mundane, is the joy of loving all you are and what you do in your day. Science has shown that if you are a happy person you are more likely to have success in life.

 

BRING FORTH MORE HAPPINESS

 

Harness your happiness by:

  • Self-Respect –Know have respect for your unique powers of intention, imagination, conscious choice and the right to be happy. We are all on this journey together but each of us has unique creative abilities and expression that make the journey more enjoyable, rich and fulfilling. Honor your gifts and creativity and how they complement the larger community.

 

  • Self-Care – Be sure to take time to rest, relax, and create on the inner plane before jumping into action.  You’ll find that inspired action is more efficient and enjoyable than slogging through something.  Take responsibility for your well-being and give yourself the satisfaction of taking care of what you need in the moment.

 

  • Empower your true self by finding inner fulfillment through knowing what has meaning for you, your values, the good you create and your power to manifest it.  Find ways to serve by sharing innate or cultivated gifts, wisdom and abilities. The word needs you!

 

  • Be appreciative of the people and experiences that have brought you to the threshold of who you are now. There is plenty more where that came from, and fortunately for you, now you are ready to harness your inner happiness to bring more abundant joy into your future experiences.

Learn how emotional transformation can transform your life in my new e-book- “Transform Your Emotions, Transform Your Life”

When Expectations Get In The Way of Happiness

When Expectations Get In The Way of Happiness

WHAT DETERMINES HAPPINESS?

 

One hundred people will probably have one hundred different, unique sets of expectations about what constitutes happiness. When it comes to happiness the objective of an expectation is to line up what you think with what you want to happen; or what you intend to create in your life with your activity, action or behavior.  Life experience teaches you to expect different consequences from positive and negative behavior, so it makes sense that when you focus on what you believe to be positive actions you expect positive outcomes along with the feeling of happiness that ensues. The all- important question to ask about your expectations for happiness is where are they coming from?  Do you call on others to show you the way to happiness by their achievements or by what they think is right for you? Are you trying to make others proud of you? Do you derive expectations of happiness based on a reaction to what might make you happy? Or, do your expectations of being happy come from within?

 

DELIBERATE HAPPINESS

 

What happens when your expectations are not met or when you have done everything you feel is right and the outcomes do not match your desires?  You put time, energy and focus into an expected happy outcome and got disappointment instead. The emotional weight of your dissatisfaction creates a huge imbalance in your life, and leaves you with a sense that you have let yourself (and perhaps others) down.  A good way to regain your emotional balance is to look within and find happiness with who you are and where you are; to open up space to examine your personal dreams and let your happiness deliberately start from connection your inner feeling of love and joy. It’s not that you shouldn’t try for that high-flying career or family, relationship or any of those things you dream about, but happiness need not revolve around doing or being what others or society thinks we should be doing.  When that unwelcome feeling of disappointment shows up it is prodding you to regain your balance, and to pay attention to the inner-side of the equation.  As a unique person you have the power and right to define what matches your inner happy.

 

FUEL EXPECTATIONS WITH EMOTION

 

Life is an ongoing journey of change, refresh, create and refine.  Contentment and happiness shift, twist, turn and show up in unexpected, delightful ways.  Spending your mental currency – your thinking energy on trying to figure out all the right moves can lead to burn out, disappointment and ill-health. For expectations to match desired outcomes thinking and emotions need to be aligned with what you want.   How do you shift your thinking to match your dreams for happiness? Focus on what you truly want. What are you passionate about? What is calling you to your greatest joy?  Relax more and get in touch with the dreams that bring smiles to your face, and give yourself permission to spend more time imagining you are enjoying those things in your life now. The power of your mind and heart joined in envisioning your happiness in this moment puts creative expression into motion.  When you start expressing the energy of happiness now you are not just going through the motions, you are riding the wave of aligned thinking and actually grows and attracts your dream into reality.

So what are your expectations for happiness?  In daily existence there are routines, habits, relationships and meeting the needs of yourself and others (family, work, etc.) Yet there are also the dreams and hopes for a deeply satisfying experience where you live in the greatness you imagine yourself to be – happy, fulfilled and in balance.   Being mindful of the things that are important to you and setting goals that are lined up with your authentic, heart-and-soul desires will help you to set targets to put e-motion toward things that really matter to you. That way you will retain a foundation of true purpose, passion and inspiration and keep your balance while engaging in the bigger picture of daily life.

 

HOW DO YOU EXPERIENCE HAPPINESS?

 

Raise your expectations for happiness by doing these simple things:

  • Surrender the opinions and expectations of others and spend more time listening to the dreams calling you from your heart.  Use reflection to connect with what moves you from inner joy.
  • Recognize that if you want to be happy, it can also come in small and everyday ways.  Appreciate that what you are experiencing in this day is an opportunity to feel happy.
  • Be open to receiving happiness in unexpected ways and through new experiences. Fi you are flexible, curious and expand your definition of happiness you may enhance your sense of potential and opportunity in life.
  • Be compassionate with yourself, accept your strengths and release the inner critic when it shows up.
  • Do what makes a difference and has purpose or meaning for you.  Fulfilling a noble purpose (practicing acts of kindness, volunteer work or participating in charitable projects) gives your life mean.
Marilyn Decalo Logo, Phoenix

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