Time To Follow Your Dreams

Time To Follow Your Dreams

Dreaming is one of humanity’s greatest gifts; it champions aspiration, spurs innovation, leads to change, and propels the world forward. – Sir Richard Branson

Have you promised yourself that 2019 is the year you start pursuing your dreams? The new year can be a great motivator to get on the path toward your desire. So if it’s time to make a decision to go for it then here are some suggestions on how you can make your dreams happen.

 

1. This Is Your Life

 

Only you know what will make you happy. Aren’t you worth giving it your best effort? By doing what you love you live your best life because you do more than just exist. Following your dream is empowering and is an opportunity to use your potential to create something new; to make a life you love. You will also serve as an inspiration to others who hope to do the same. You’ll touch the lives of many who surround you and encourage them to get on their own paths to living joyfully.

 

2. There Is No Time Like The Present To Be Happy

 

Wouldn’t it be great to wake up each day excited to do what makes you happy? Enjoying your days, weeks, months and years starts in this present moment. Your dreams are the outward expression of your creative energy; uniquely yours and you birthed them because they excite you. If we bury our dreams or put them on hold we deny our gifts, messages and creative contribution to the world. Not everyone follows their dreams but if you desire to live the life you’ve always wanted there’s no time like today to get going.

 

3. Get Clear That Your Dreams Are Possible

 

You can start to get a feel for doing something you’ve always wanted to do by exploring opportunities in the field. Do a little research, investigate the latest ideas, see what else is out there that could either be a stepping stone or get your adrenaline pumping. Move the energy around by writing down your new story – what will life be like as you become the person living your dream? Believing is seeing, so be sure to spend some time enjoying and envisioning your dream as it comes to life. Appreciating the steps on the journey allows you to enjoy the whole process and believe in it more strongly each day. You are beginning to live your dream which increases your motivation to accomplish it.

 

4. Remember Your Why

 

Your reason “why” you want a particular goal is the driving force that keeps you committed to accomplishing it. Write out your reasons and revisit them to renew your decision regularly. Remember your “why” if you start to waver or run into an obstacle, and start again. Persistence comes from an inner connection to your vision. You may need to find that inner strength and recommit when you encounter setbacks. However, your vision cannot be discouraged when you are in tune with your inspiration. Journal or meditate and visualize the feeling of accomplishing your dream regularly.

 

5. Dream big!

 

Take some time to allow yourself to ask, “What if it was bigger?” Don’t let negative thoughts discourage you. What others may say has no relevance to a dreamer. This is your dream and it is your heart and mind that has created it. While your dream won’t just happen, you can be sure that by focusing on your dream on a regular basis, feeling good about all of the details as they come into view, and planning out an inspired strategy – one that feels right from the inside out – eventually you will achieve your dream. Fueled by purpose you won’t worry about the unknowns. You have embraced who you are and you will feel inclined to see and do things you are you inspired to do.

 

6. Seek Out A Professional Mentor or Coach

 

One reason many dreams never go anywhere is because the dreamer keeps their dream quiet inside of them. If you want to accomplish your dream, stop making excuses for who and where you are. Going back is more painful than the unknown before you and your only real limitation is your consciousness. Once your decision is made you’re no longer strained in your abilities. You’ll no longer fear success or losing it all. If it’s time you really start showing up to live your dreams consider starting 2019 with a professional coach. I can help you keep accountable, focus your time and energy, and be enormously successful with only three to five hours of work each day. Email me today to get started right away! Marilyn@marilyndecalo.com

 

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The Message Is Clear

The Message Is Clear

 

Perhaps the uplifting music and messages of the holiday season has softened your heart and you might be enjoying a realization that you are more than you think. The sounds, sights and experiences of this time of year can offer you the gift of transcending your conditioned human mind to realize within your heart the truth of Jesus’s words: “You are the light of the world.”

 

There is more here than meets the eye.

 

When your sense of yourself shifts from identification with the thoughts and beliefs determined by society, family and the outside environment to an uplifting feeling within, to a sense of the unique expression of creative force that is you and yet connected with all that is, you are becoming more conscious of the energetic essence of your being. This is the consciousness that flows through all human beings; an intelligent consciousness that is more than the molecules and matter of human form. We have all had glimpses of this being-ness behind the human being when something jolts us into questioning and moving beyond the conditioned thought constructs that hold us in competition and separate from one other. We might be challenged to overcome loss, relationships, or experience psychological turmoil and turn inward to discove a deeper meaning for what is happening in our in our lives. In the process we reach a point where we let go of old points of view and open to a new more expanded dimension of consciousness about life. That shift, rising above the old energy, or old paradigm is awakening to the wisdom or light within you. Whether it happens with or without recognizing it, each of us has this very personal awakening experience when we are ready to grow in consciousness. At that point of we turn from being a victim of what we see to responding to what happens from a perspective of a co-creator, knowing we are a work in progress along with everyone else.

 

Tune into the seasonal shift.

 

Taking time for seasonal opportunities to appreciate the joys of life can be a doorway of greater connection with the universal impulse guiding us to become conscious of all that we are. We spend way too much time talking about what we are not, and in doing so limit our creative power. Letting go of the voices in our heads, compulsive thinking and obsessive action allows us to hear our truth, what our hearts have to tell us about what is most meaningful, how we share our unique gift and receive the gifts of others.

 

The earth’s seasonal shift from dark to light in the northern hemisphere is an exciting happening; a certain time of the year to celebrate our passing over to a new land. Passing over the old, dark energy and welcoming the light to come back inside to rekindle our essential self. The message of this season is clear, go from this time ready to change. Allow your light to shine into the world as the important expression of universal consciousness that you are

 

Three ways to engage with the Season of Light to shift your consciousness.

 

Appreciation – When you appreciate someone or something you tune into positive qualities, express heart-based connection. By feeling appreciation, you slip from thinking mode to feeling mode and naturally align with a joyful vibration. Appreciation, whether it comes from something outside of yourself or something you intended and manifested for yourself, is always refreshing and rejuvenating. The opportunities holidays offer for us to gather and spend time with loved ones are springboards for finding more appreciation of the blessings in our lives. If we take a step back and ask the universe to show us all the good there is for us each day, our waking state would be filled with a steady stream of things and people for us to appreciate.

 

Inner Peace – The practice of cultivating inner peace is undertaken to consciously align with more desirable mental and emotional state, but the benefits can be physical as well. Meditation, journaling, yoga, walking, playing music, can all be ways to cultivate a sense of inner connectedness and calm, and manage emotions. The conscious cultivation of inner peace is also an experience of knowing oneself – of getting in touch with what makes us truly happy, of finding more peaceful perspectives on those in our lives and events in our world. Self-care and inner reflection are important aspects of the solstice – a time to remind ourselves that our needs matter, and having a peaceful heart helps us prepare for the activities that more daylight brings into our lives.

 

Wonder – Affirming wonder is recognizing the power of life force energy propelled and flowing through an object. Wonder is a unique expression of the relationship between observer and observed. The intense connection in the moment magnifies the experience. Wonder is most often felt as a transcendent state, where one connects to the creative intelligence revealed in the thing, event or combination of elements. The Season of Light is touted as a season of wonder in a mystical sense. A time when our human nature is infused with the light of our divine nature and we see the world through eyes of delight and extraordinary love. Uniting experiences abound during the holidays and if we keep our minds and hearts open to the magic of wonder we will be led into higher states of being.

 

 

Are you looking for guidance in managing your feelings? Coaching sessions are available via Phone, In-Person in Colorado or Skype.

At Peace Within

At Peace Within

What is it about the holiday season that makes me feel so good? The most important and profound things in life – the people, emotions and shared experiences, familiar and new – make the holidays meaningful. Within that sense of meaning, everything seems to come alive in a special way.  The music, our family and cultural rituals, food only served at holidays and seasonal festivities are sensual delights.  Then there are the lovely expressions of Spirit – getting together with others to wrap gifts, decorating the hearth, toasting life or simply helping neighbors – that exude an energy of connection and demonstrate how good caring about each other and our world feels. The inspiring influences of this time of year, when compassionate thoughts, stories of kindness, acts of giving and receiving, and offerings of hope and love connect and uplift us, fill my heart with a high spiritual energy. It’s as though a light emerges from within me and shines more brightly the more I take pleasure in our seasonal togetherness.

 

How do we experience the joys of the season of light?

 

There’s a beautiful experience to behold in the season of light and it starts with finding peace and contentment within ourselves. From an intentional perception of appreciation for all we are, and all we have – even with the challenges we are currently moving past – we connect with our basic goodness, the essence of our true selves in our hearts, minds and souls. Focus upon that inner connection to goodness allows awareness of the light within to arise. Our own inner wisdom is the doorway beyond limiting thoughts and beliefs. Open your heart to what is truly most important for you and experience the intelligence of Spirit that fills your world with light. When I allow the energy of peace to flow through me, I can discern how I closed off a part of myself and was seeing the world through a narrow slit. With intention and attention to what mattered most to me I moved past what I was seeing with my limited sight.   When I choose my potential for good, and believe in the well-being of life, the door opens each day to a vast wonderland of ineffable joy.

Within each of us we can find the magic of good cheer, compassion and joys of the season. You don’t need to do anything extraordinary; just remind yourself of the peace and light that dwells in your own heart and mind, and intentionally focus on allowing it to shine brighter. You can imagine a simple candle growing brighter within or multiple candles lighting up your heart, your body, your home and your day. Surrender any resistance you may have to this satisfying experience and let that be enough. Do this for a few minutes each day and the peace in your heart is sure to echo throughout your activities not only this season but all seasons.

If you are looking for inspiration to guide you to a more peaceful perception of your life, my book,
Seeing With The Heart, A Guided Inspiration Journal is available here.

Episode 4: Your Anxiety Doesn’t Define You

Has anxiety become a daily struggle? Is your mind constantly racing with fearful thoughts, or you find yourself worrying about everything? When anxiety takes over it can leave you feeling isolated and lonely. The good news is that you do not need to be defined by anxiety. It is highly treatable and there are proven techniques and tools to help you address the underlying causes of anxiety. You can get past anxiety.

You can listen to the audio video or audio MP3 file below.

When Feelings Are Too Much

When Feelings Are Too Much

Learning to manage emotional upsets is a valuable skill on the journey through life. As human beings we rely on our emotions for expression of desires, response to conditions, and feedback about our experiences. E-motions are energy-in-motion, and emotional energy usually follows a pattern of growing and then dissipating as we shift mental focus from ideas, people, activities and circumstances. Depending on how closely we assign the significance of an experience or relationship to an essential or core belief we hold related to survival or self-identity, our emotions can escalate, gain momentum and we might find ourselves caught in an uncomfortable,  emotional loop.

 

Take a Break

 

When you find yourself overwhelmed with anger, sorrow, loneliness or fear and are unable to deal with the intense feelings in the moment, remember that you have a choice. You do not have to be in those feelings right now. In fact, if you are overwhelmed it is a sure sign that you need a break from the thoughts and feelings fueling the uncontrollable emotional state. Take a break and you will be better able to deal with the feelings later. Doing this does not mean that you are denying the emotions are there. It is important that you come back to the feelings when you are rested. Even if they have changed, acknowledging your feelings is key to allowing yourself to accept yourself fully. Oftentimes we want to push feelings away and if we do, we resist the information they provide about hindering beliefs we hold, about ourselves or others. After taking a break you may have a different perspective which can help you understand what is happening underneath the emotional upset, and prevent further painful emotional loops.

 

Here are some ways to let yourself take a break from your feelings:

1. Journal about how you are feeling. Writing out your feelings is a form of release and allows you to focus the emotional energy into words. As you write let yourself feel the emotions pouring out of you onto the page (or computer screen). Ask yourself, what else do I feel about this (relationship, situation, experience, etc.) and empty yourself of every thought and emotion that comes up. When you are finished thank yourself for acknowledging what you are feeling and imagine putting the pages safely into a box in the shape of a heart. You can lock it if you wish or set it aside for later.

2. Go within and create a safe space in your imagination, a comfortable chamber you mentally step into where you breathe and relax. As you step into your chamber leave your feelings outside the doorway. Create an image that represents of how you are feeling them in the moment and allow the image to encompass and protect the feelings outside your chamber door. Your feelings are still there and you can decide to pick them up again after you are done relaxing in your chamber, or let them dissolve within the image holding them.

3. Movement can help. Chose to think about something else for the time being. Go for a walk, go to the gym, change the scenery. Moving your body moves the energy and as you breathe and oxygenate your brain the chemistry changes in as little as 15 minutes.

4. Focus on taking care of you. Your mood can shift when you try something different. If you have been doing the same old thing every day, stuck in your feelings then try changing your patterns. Rather than going home after work or staying inside on the weekend and feeling lonely, take yourself for a drive in the countryside, go to movie, visit a museum. I worked with one young man who was going through a divorce and decided to take himself on a date. He had the best day he had had in a month.

Your feelings are not always easy to feel but you can become adept at feeling and appreciating them for the insight they offer into yourself when you allow and work with them. There really are no “bad” feelings for on the other side of every feeling is the opportunity and reward of moving into a better feeling state. Taking a break from emotional struggle is a valuable tool to help you manage the process of getting there.

 

Are you looking for guidance in managing your feelings? Coaching sessions are available via Phone, In-Person in Colorado or Skype.

Marilyn Decalo Logo, Phoenix

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