How Does One Get Started With Spirituality?

How Does One Get Started With Spirituality?

Dear Marilyn,

How does one get started with spirituality?

By developing a curiosity about the whole self; the truth of who you are in totality.  For some of us this curiosity comes at a time we are experiencing a particularly challenging life event.  Perhaps in a vulnerable moment of feeling empty or lost you turn inward, and sensing there must be something more to life, you want answers from a higher power.  For others it might be a desire to know who you truly are after experiencing the end of significant relationship or job.  You feel it is now time to live life on your terms, and you want to understand what that means.  Or maybe a desire for release from the stress of incessant thinking, always doing for others and trying to control outcomes, causes you to seek the solace and peace of a place of worship.  You are more open to the idea of coming home to your true Self and in your curiosity about who you are, you become willing to explore perceptions of yourself and life beyond present concepts.

The meaning of spirituality is to become aware of and concerned with the spirit or soul nature; through tools, techniques and inspiration you can intentionally connect with your higher consciousness and allow more peace into your experience. Initially you may think that the purpose of becoming more spiritual is to change conditions in your life.  In reality the process of awakening is actually a process of knowing yourself as a divine creator and authentic expression of divine love.

It takes a very courageous soul to break away from the spell that holds human consciousness in the belief that happiness is found when conditions in the world conform to one’s wishes. The truth is that the world can never give you enough happiness because happiness comes from within, from your own feeling nature.  You start on the spiritual path by making peace with where you are in this moment.  Not judging yourself, not trying to change yourself, not wishing things were different, but by simply accepting yourself and appreciating everything that has brought you to this moment as necessary to being here, now.  This is your life and to deny the parts and pieces of it as wrong is to deny yourself love and appreciation for who you have become, and what has led you to decide to explore your spirituality.  So start with self-acceptance and allow everything you feel to be okay.  Whether it’s fear or love, just surrender to the moment, say, “I am here, now” and breathe.  Once you begin to take responsibility for your feelings, and how you feel about yourself, not blaming others for your feelings but recognizing you have the power to choose how you respond, you are on your way to knowing who you really are.  You are more powerful and magnificent than you ever imagined, and you do not have to struggle and suffer to have what you want.  Because what you truly want is to be the creator of more joy, peace and love.

There is no right or wrong way to get started on a spiritual path.  However, I do recommend that you learn to meditate if you do not already do so. The time spent in the peaceful, relaxing spaciousness of meditation allows you to connect with higher energetic vibrations and become familiar with inner balance and calm.   You can download my free meditation guide here.

I also recommend some wonderful healing guided meditations from my teachers, Aaron and Joseph found on their website: https://aaronandjoseph.pagecloud.com

If you are interested in exploring books about spirituality try https://www.holybooks.com

They offer lots of great, free downloads.

And if you are seeking a guide or coach to help you identify other resources, tools and techniques on your spiritual path, reach out to me to set up a time to talk: marilyn@marilyndecalo.com

 

Your Friend On The Path,

Marilyn

Reach For New Heights

Reach For New Heights

New Heights in Consciousness

 

In these days of greater awakening to more expanded states of consciousness we are thinking differently, listening to our intuitive nature more often, and increasing communication with our higher selves. To support a gentle and joyful integration of this new way of being with the experiences of daily life, it’s important to focus on ideas, wisdom and activities aligned with our highest light. Having conscious awareness of a desire to live and grow in harmony with our inner truth, to follow the light of a path that makes our hearts sing, requires that we practice connection with our authenticity each day. Creating lifestyle opportunities to nurture and reinforce joyful connection with the whole self is not only a purposeful perspective to explore. It is also a means for directing our inner and outer experiences to reach for new heights in consciousness. The thoughts we think, the blessings we perceive, the kindness and grace we offer ourselves and others can become deliberate choices. We can learn to trust and dialogue with our inner wisdom; to find our next step from our own opinions rather than the opinions of others. As we open our hearts and minds to let in a consistent flow of this inner light, we empower expression from the essential self; to think thoughts and take actions inspired from a dynamic, energetic place of authenticity and gratitude, which feels good.

 

New Heights in Awareness of Who I am

 

Consciously engaging the higher self is a co-creative experience of living holistically in resonance with a balanced sense of innate well-being. As the inspiration takes up more of our consciousness, our actions and activities tend to reflect that inner light, the spirit of love who we truly are awakening within, and we reach for new heights of awareness, knowing and expression. In reaching for these new heights we find peace, love, compassion and appreciation in our hearts, and we release our grip on the past. No longer settling for limitations that hold us in fear, doubt or false beliefs about our worthiness.

 

When I am reaching for new heights in conscious awareness of who I am as a divine-human, I am tuned into my higher-self. I believe in myself. I believe in my power to meet every moment with fortitude and I anticipate blessings. Expansion of consciousness feels like a spark igniting my soul, like a power surge of clarity in my heart and mind. I can see the light of love in others, and perfection in what earlier may have seemed like darkness.

 

Emergence of New Wings To Lift You Higher

 

There are lots of different options for to support you as you reach for new heights. You can think of activities and intentions that assist and guide you into new vistas as preparing you for your new wings of light to emerge. The wings that will lift you to new heights in the light of love. Engagement and participation in practices which cultivate inner connection like

meditation, journaling, yoga, spirituality, nature walks, prayer and dance on a consistent basis reinforce positive results and keep you growing in fulfilling ways.

 

As you reach for new heights ask yourself, “What makes my heart sing?” Follow that with conscious appreciation for the wisdom received because it brings you into alignment with the soul that is uniquely you and allows your growth to take root. Enjoy yourself as you reach for new heights knowing your place is to soar in new directions.

 

 

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Live The Life You Wish To Live

Live The Life You Wish To Live

What is stopping you from living the life you wish to live? Do you ever ask yourself questions such as, “Why don’t I have the job I want or the pay I want?”, “Why is this person I work for not treating me right?”, or “Will I ever find the love of my life?” We tend to think that others are responsible for our happiness. For instance, when it comes to expectations for satisfying experiences in the work environment we look to a supervisor or colleagues to fall in line with our path to success. When they don’t give us the raise we think we deserve or the assignment we want we might feel unappreciated or under valued. We have empowered them with determining our ability to feel good.

The key to living a life you wish for yourself is having the courage to take responsibility for creating your own happiness. Intentionally being responsible means listening to your own voice, connecting with and making choices that feel right to you and not focusing on what might be good for, or look good to other people. Respecting your inner truth does not mean ignoring the good ideas that others might share with you, Rather it is trusting that you deserve to enjoy a balanced life where well being is the norm, and it is your thoughts, feelings and actions that bring that into being.  Empowering your inner guidance energizes and engages your passion to live a fulfilling life; the life that you desire without comparison to others standards, direction or approval.

 

Listen Less To Self-Doubt

 

While it’s true that others’ behavior and reactions to events you may engage in together are not your responsibility, your response to others’ behavior is not their fault or responsibility. Taking ownership of your emotions, thoughts and response to life’s ups and downs is the beginning of releasing the blame, victimization and struggle that disempowers you. There is no standard for measuring yourself except when you are focusing on arbitrary external conditions you believe to be true in your head. But that negative voice in your head telling you you don’t measure up isn’t real. It came from belief that outside opinions determine your worth. The only person judging you is you. One of the main reasons we don’t do what we want to do is because we believe others  might judge us, judge our work or our abilities. We think we are vulnerable to what others might inflict upon us and in the process lose our connection to a vital expression of who we are. We strive for perfection in a seemingly impossible way – under terms dictated by limitations. However many have discovered that you don’t need to be perfect to start moving forward.  You can stand in the middle of uncertainty filled with the power of trust and belief in your innate goodness, equipped with the awareness and intention of your heart’s desire, and take the next step. 

 

However, when you are confused about your aspirations or choices and unsure of next steps it can feel like a crisis sometimes. If you have an important decision to make and no confidence about how to make it, and you are caught in a negative reaction to a challenging person or situation, indecision can be paralyzing. It can feel like spinning in place. You may find yourself looking to others for answers, anticipating your next move, thinking it through in 20 different ways – all of which involve spending a lot of time in self-doubt in your head. What if you acknowledge your self-doubt and do what you want you truly want anyway? What if you acknowledge those doubts, not try to push them away, make peace with where you are, and then listen, really listen, to the ideas, thoughts and dreams coming forward in your own heart?

 

Listen More To The Voice In Your Heart

 

“The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or touched but are felt in the heart.”

Helen Keller

 

We tell ourselves things like “I can’t write,” “I am not interesting,” “This isn’t going to work out for me,” and then we get that feeling of anxiety going. That feeling is a clue that there is something that you truly want, and you are denying and not trusting yourself to create it. Asking yourself what is at the core of that uneasy feeling or what is beneath that sense of panic will help you see past the doubt and self-judgment to the feelings that you truly want to express and experience. Those positive feelings that arise when you ask on the inner plane are the voice of your heart and soul calling you to the greater good in each and every decision or situation.  You can be assured that no matter what the outside circumstances, you have touched the core of who you are.  Are you ready to follow your joy rather than fear?

 

Life is not all or nothing. Life is a journey of exploring and trying new things, of following what feels good and brings joy, and of changing direction when an emotional storm is brewing. The wisdom to know that and to live your unique, authentic expression on your path is within your heart. Going inside to find the answers rather than becoming mired in what others think allows the positive part of your life to start to guide you.

 

Here Are Tools To Listen To Your Heart

 

You can live the life you wish to live now. Rather than waiting for a crisis to arise, begin to practice being aware of the voice in your heart now. You’ll be glad for where this connection leads you the next time you are challenged by indecisiveness.

 

Practice Meditation

Meditation is a great way to get to know your inner truth. A simple meditation technique is to find a quiet place to relax for 15 minutes each morning before jumping into your day, and sit calmly listening to meditation music while breathing deeply. As you breathe, focus on the feeling of the natural flow of air, in and out of the body. Enjoy the sense of peace that envelops you as you find more and more ease in your breathing and quiet in your mind.

When you have practiced meditation for just a week or so you will begin to notice becoming more aware of your intuitive senses, or gut feelings. It’s a sense of knowing what is right and hearing an inner knowledge from deep within.

 

Notice Messages From Your Heart

Use a journal to note guidance you receive from your heart. Your heart speaks to you continually and making a note of its advice allows you to contemplate and strengthen your connection rather than overlooking or minimalizing its’ voice. Your heart is unique and the messages it brings forth are uniquely for you and felt by you. Trusting in the wisdom of your heart is empowering yourself to be responsible for discovering your own truth and using it to improve your life. Writing down the direction the guidance from your heart is directing you; contemplate it and then use your reasoning intellect to support you in moving forward.

 

Once you find the loving guidance of your heart, you have entered the gateway to live the life you wish to live. You’ll never go back!

Tapping Into Your (True) Opinion Because It Matters

Tapping Into Your (True) Opinion Because It Matters

Get To Know Your Own Opinions Through Your Emotions

 

The greatest opinion that you want is your own opinion – the essence of truth within you that influences your beliefs, thinking and emotions in any given moment. If you are experiencing illness, shortage of money, feelings of loneliness, ask yourself what is your opinion about what you are experiencing? How do you feel about what is going on in your life? Your emotions are the core of your power to overcome anything and you can use them as a guidance system for knowing your inner truth about anything in your life. Practice asking yourself what it is that you want, silently. Breathe in deeply and allow a feeling of peace to dominate your mind. Then gently ask yourself, “What do I want?” A general answer may come similar to, ‘I want to be healthy, happy and prosperous.’ Good. Start there. Don’t focus on how those things will come. Instead focus on how wonderful it feels as you imagine you are healthy, happy, and prosperous right now. Details will begin to fill in and you can start to connect with the good, uplifting feelings of enjoying what you want coming into focus in your mind. Think about those things that make your heart sing; that fill you up with excitement. For example, you might ask yourself, why do you want to be healthy? Because it feels good; moving the body freely, getting stronger and stronger. If you do this for about 5 minutes you will experience a state of noticeable well-being.

 

Connect With Your Opinions

 

The easiest way to connect inward to your core knowing is by deep breathing. Allow yourself to take the time to make that connection on a regular basis and you will be able to keep in touch with your source of wisdom, truth and creative expression. The insights and awareness you gain from this connection forms your opinion because as you connect to what feels good within you, you come into alignment with the unique truth of you! When you honor and allow your opinion to dominate, honor what you want, then that is what you create more of in your life. Your belief and opinion influences how you perceive situations, your health, abundance and relationships. As you consciously think in the direction of what you do want (rather than what you do not want), influenced by your opinion about it and the feeling of why you want it, you have tapped into the power that creates everything you desire. You can see that your opinion matters!

 

Your Own Opinions Are Powerful

 

Most of us don’t use our own opinions to guide us to what we want in life and live by default. Sometimes that turns out good and sometimes it can be bad. As you change your perspective and focus more upon your own opinions you begin living with intention and you are lighting your own path forward. It doesn’t matter what anyone else’s opinion is unless you accept it and own it. You want to honor your opinions because that is what makes you happy. Your own opinions are telling you what you want and don’t want because they are based on your good feelings. Keep your opinion compass pointed in the direction of that inner truth and you are always headed true north!

 

Here are three easy ways to cultivate your own opinions.

 

1. Care about how you feel. Ask yourself what it is you want and then why do you want that. When you start to get some ideas, ask yourself, which one feels best before making a decision. Do it because your heart says so, first. Feeling good is your natural state and your heart knows the path to opinions that demonstrate it. When you follow the trail to feeling good, your journey along the way is sure to be happy.

 

2. Use the power of your mind to send well-being and good, positive thoughts to your family, friends and those around you. Tap into the good feeling energy that already exists in the relationships you have to bring more of it to you. You have the power to shift the energy of your interactions through your intentional focus on well-being and on everything else you want that feels good. Intentionally guiding your thoughts about those you connect with on a day to day basis allows you to sync up with positive opinions that uplift you, others and that bring peace into your world.

 

3. Surrender old beliefs that no longer serve your highest and best interests. Beliefs like “I don’t deserve it.” “I’m not good enough.” Or, “I can’t.” You’ll see life differently. As you call forth your good feeling opinions about yourself because you know you deserve what you want, you step on a path to living more fully, authentically and in line with your heart and soul.

 

Once you connect inward and start listening to your own, authentic opinions you move more and more to what you truly want in your life. You’ll be surprised and delighted by what happens when you are on this wanted side of the equation.

Becoming The Butterfly

Becoming The Butterfly

Change is An Inside Job

 

Just like a caterpillar transforming into a butterfly as it is breaking free from its cocoon, the new year reminds us that we have an opportunity to spread our wings and fly free of what has held us back in the past. To renew our dreams and desires, shed our limitations and consciously evolve. In the past 12 months as I have worked to release fear, anxiety and worry, and to focus on living as my authentic self, I have gained a greater understanding that transformation is an ongoing affair each day, unfolding present moment after present moment. I have noticed that as I allow my relationship with my Inner Self to take a more active role in my life, I am guided to appreciate more each day, even those things you might call challenges. The difference in allowing myself to be guided through conscious connection with my inner truth, rather than following the conditioned beliefs that come forward as “I should do this or that” is the sense of liberation I feel. With this feeling of freedom, I come to know myself more fully because I am open to experiencing what truly makes me who I am – my unique patterns, colors and light, if you will. Spreading my wings to express my unique gifts. As I have made the decision to surrender limiting beliefs and open to new perceptions on the inside, life in the outer world has changed, too.

 

Appreciate Your Infinite Intelligence

 

Butterflies are amazing. Monarch butterflies have a migration flight path of over 4000 miles from Brazil to Nova Scotia and back. They are able to find the same branch where they emerged from their cocoons on their return journey. They and many other species on earth exhibit the natural intelligence of their unique universal design. The don’t question or doubt their existence, they merely align with their true nature and live accordingly. Their brains are the size of a pin needle, yet they have a life force energy that tunes them into their paths. While the butterfly has always been a symbol of transformation, change, color and joy, it also symbolizes our internal ability to move from one perspective to another by following our inner truth. We possess the intelligence and inspiration to be all we can be. We can get clarity about what we want and need when we listen to inner wisdom.

 

Believe in Your Wings

 

My intended journey in 2019 is to be one of more self-expression and greater illumination of a joyful path forward by consciously aligning with the truth of my divine essence. Like the new butterfly who has transmuted its energy from the chrysalis stage and rebirthed, I am heeding the call of moving toward something better for myself. I recognize that the way has not always been easy; albeit the struggles I have experienced have prepared me for the transformation I am experiencing. In the process of shifting into my new perspective that life is meant to be enjoyed and well-being is my natural state, I have surrendered attitudes, beliefs and behaviors that I thought were central to my life. I have learned to look at the challenges that arise in my

life as a door opening, as an opportunity to grow. I believe in my new wings and trust that I am led to where I truly want to go – free from fear and ready for the next more magnificent stage.

 

Release The Old & Embrace The New

 

Before we begin to change we might have an impulse to research something new, check out a place we’ve always wanted to visit or leave a relationship. In our old forms we are getting ready for the next phase by digesting new ideas and we might feel compelled to make a move before we have fattened our hearts and minds in our cocoons. When it’s time for transformation we sometimes must fight our way out of our old paradigms and release old beliefs. If this is something that you are feeling then here are a few ideas to help you move through the barriers and old patterns.

 

1. Be courageous, and willing to stretch as you investigate something new. Change can initially be uncomfortable and nervous feelings are normal. Use a breathing technique to pause when discomfort arises and be curious about it rather than resistant. You’ll be surprised how it actually helps you move through to the next step.

 

2. Ask yourself what you value and why making a change will allow you to align with what matters to you most. Try asking, “Why is this change truly important to me?” Focus on the feeling your response brings through. Remember that you are always evolving to the best version of yourself. The answers to your “why?” are always within you and getting in touch with them offers you the purest motivation for making changes.

 

3. Don’t be hard on yourself. Approach mistakes, setbacks and course changes with an attitude of learning rather than self-criticism. Even if you don’t think you are 110% right you don’t have to wait. Put your trust in your desire for change and your inspiration. Be on your own side and have your own back. Each day is an opportunity to try again, to be on the path to our goals. If we are beating ourselves up and letting feelings of failure stop us, our desires can turn into struggles instead of the journey of joy and thriving we intend. Say to yourself, “Things are improving.”

 

As we are transforming and going into the unknown all of the excuses not to change that we ever thought of will show themselves. Hang in there because it just means you are in the cocoon stage and on your way to becoming the butterfly. Is it time for you to spread those wings and fly? If you want some support and more tools for changing your life, reach out to me – marilyn@marilyndecalo.com Also, check out my self-paced course, Becoming Who You Are Meant To Be…. 

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